In our every day world of form, I am amazed and thrilled at how love will always stand as the most omnipresent and powerful feature of all. For me, it shows up in a myriad of ways, depending on not only the object of love, but also the perspective of the “lover.”
Since all paths begin and end with the Self, I’ll start with how we may show love for ourselves. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you,” then chances are that you take care of;
So, when I love myself I am set up to and supported in loving my dear ones, including my family, friends and pet. As a woman, I may pamper my spouse with that unbidden cup of coffee first thing in the morning, preparing a nice meal, deep listening to his accounts of his day, sharing a love letter or welcoming sexually intimacy. I understand that men often show their love in demonstrative ways such as fixing their partner’s car, taking turns with childcare or taking their spouse out for a nice meal.
I show my love for my child by doing my best to keep my “stuff” from clouding the way that I treat and react to her. In my clarity, I am then able to be emotionally available and appropriately responsive to her needs. Interestingly, much of my journey with my daughter has been about holding her vast potential in faith and love, while letting go of her judgment or my need to ‘fix’ her. She has taught me acceptance.
I see my friends as my tribe. The eclectic mix of personalities nourish my spirit on many levels. I show appreciation and love for them by keeping in touch with them and supporting them, to the best of my ability, with any project and/or concern they may need help with. I also have fun with doing little things for them, such as going for a spontaneous Dairy Queen run.
Love for my pet Yorkie, Phoebe, is not only caring for her physical needs (that includes food, bathing, nail clipping, and sweaters) but also taking her for a proper walk each day. We both enjoy a little play time to punctuate the day here and there. She gives her all to me every day so it follows that I invest in her happiness too. God bless our pets.After all, I call her my angel under cover.
When I think of love for my fellow human being, I look at what is my business and is within my control. As a counselling therapist, I hold my clients in a space of acceptance and compassion. I see them whole, in essence, while helping them heal the past as they become grounded in the present.
On a community level, I vote for a leadership with a social and ecological conscience beyond the need to balance the budget. Every day I monitor if my walk is matching my talk in “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.” That includes not harming anyone on purpose and being tolerant of things that I don’t understand.
As far as the planet goes, I support the will and consciousness of those who hold the well-being of Mother Earth and all life dear. My part, here, includes simple things like recycling my waste and not littering. Lately, I’ve been picking up garbage on my daily walk with my dog. I make that fun in thinking of it as a bit of a ‘treasure’ hunt:-)
Ultimately, I show my love for the ‘transcendent,’ aka God, Allah, Infinite Divine Mind, Expanding Universe or Spirit (and hence myself as leading edge in form - ‘God in action’ if you will) by doing all of the above. Since there is, in essence, no separation in anything on an energetic level. When I truly understand that seamless connection, I am conscious of living in the moment and being thankful for being alive. I meditate and give thanks for my blessings, including my freedom and safety, my needs always being met, my loved ones (family and friends, divine family – angels and guides, power animals - and my pet, Phoebe), my health and wellbeing, my abundance and the beautiful, relatively safe part of the world that I call home.
I also understand that love for Spirit can show up as having a deep appreciation for the wonder and magic of nature. When I spend conscious time in nature’s cathedral, I drink in the nourishment of this divine space - fresh air, the blessings of animal life, the amazing variety of colours, the rich smells, the touch of a breeze and the warmth of the sun. Some people pray and find connection to the divine in a church. Others sacrifice themselves on the altar of service in its many forms. That sense of sacred purpose is sometimes the bridge to a sense of profound in-tune-ment and wholeness too. It’s all good.
The bottom line is that it all feels great. Love’s expressions resonate with the core of who we are at our best and truly, “makes the world go around.”
Helena Green, BA EFTCP CCIP RPC MPCC
Master Practitioner in Clinical Counselling
Registered Professional Counsellor
Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner
Certified Energy & Somatic Psychology
Counselling for the Health of It
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