Helena Green specializes in ways to overcome fear. That includes everything from fear of Friday the 13th to fear of public speaking or fear of intimacy. Marianne Williamson said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."
In the grand scheme of things, we live in a world of polarities, eg. light and dark, open and closed, active and passive. Polarities gives us the context in which we experience and understand life. A major category of polarity that affects our mental, emotional and even our physical wellness is fear and love. With love at one pole, all things seem possible. We live in a bigger way when emboldened by love. Life is good.
On the other hand, when we are filled with fear, our judgment, attitude and behavior tends to be negative. This is not a happy place to be. At more intense times, we tend to think and act from our “FFF - flight, fight or freeze” centre in our brains.
Chances are these fear-based scenarios predispose us to not be able to communicate effectively, let alone behave from a balanced and reasonable perspective. We can even project things (eg. perceived threats) that are not there. That’s the irony of ways to overcome fear; fear is often only an illusion. Yet fear and anxiety together can ruin a your physical health as well. Procrastination can keep you stuck for a long time.
Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.
The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”
Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”
Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”
Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”
In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.
(From: Pema Chodron) (Image:FreeGifs)
It is important, especially in relationships, that we all take a time out or use calming techniques in order to establish a measure composure before engaging in contentious conversations or scenarios. In learning ways to overcome fear - whether you are facing irrational fears such as fear of Friday the 13th or bullying, problems in a relationship, an uncertain future or a difficult decision - you discover that fear needs to be contained and managed. Thought processes and resources are then more available to use in finding the best possible outcome.
As part of your tool kit, you may want to try Clinical EFT (aka Meridian Tapping). Tapping is available or you may wish to explore the healing dynamics of a group setting in Anxiety-Free Power Circles. It is all part of your overall stress management strategies.
Helena Green has the life experience, education and counselling training to help you discover available choices and various tools that you may not be aware of. Isn't it high time to find out ways to overcome fear? Helena is ready to help.
Deep Listening. Clarity. Sustainable Solutions.
Helena Green, BA EFTCP MRP MPCC
Master Practitioner in Clinical Counselling
Certified Energy & Somatic Psychology
Counselling for the Health of It
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